It's those casual
conversations in school, or on line with our peers and friends that
often become the
awkward moments of the day. Here are some tips for relaxing and
improving skills. Remember that almost everyone feels uncomfortable
when first starting conversations. Don't think about how scared you
are. Just think about what you want to say and then talk...
Starters on the School Bus:
I think I have to
take my jacket off. It's so hot on this bus today.
If there's a new
bus driver, you can say: Wow, a new bus driver, I wonder what
happened to our old one.
Did you have a lot
of homework last night?
What are you doing
Does your teacher
give homework on the weekends?
I'm so tired. I
should have gotten more sleep. What time do you go to sleep?
I take piano
lessons after school. Do you take music? (If the answer is no,
then ask what the person does like to do after school.)
Starters on the Lunch Line:
Wow, pizza again.
I love pizza, do you?
Oh no, not
macaroni and cheese. It's awful, don't you think? (of course
you can substitute your most and least favorites.)
What do you like
to play at recess? I like to........(fill in what you like to
Keeping the conversation going:
Did you ever
get into a conversation and after a few sentences no one has
anything left to say?
Here are a few
tips on how to get past those first few minutes.
to have an interesting conversation, you have to be an
involved in activities so that you
will have something to talk about. If you don't do anything
but sit around watching TV or playing video games there's
not a whole lot to talk about.
than spending a lot of time thinking about how uncomfortable
you are, spend the quiet moments during the day thinking
about different subjects and how you feel about them. If
you're really sure about what you think about
different subjects, talking about it becomes much easier.
Think about: Do you like your teacher, softball, soccer? Do
you like music and what kind? Do you like to read and what
are your favorite books and why? Do you prefer Nintendo or
disappointed if every kid doesn't share your interests.
Each of us is different, with different interests. How we
learn who we like to be with and who we want to be our
friends is by honestly talking about who we are.
AND.....during a conversation, don't be afraid to ask more
questions. Sometimes kids think asking questions is being
nosey. Most people liked to be asked questions about
themselves. It shows that other people are interested in
to a good conversation is balance. Take turns talking and
really listening to what the other person is saying so that
you can make a comment or ask a question to keep the
conversation going. Remember that talking to other kids
should be fun - being ridiculous or silly sometimes is also
part of getting to know a new friend.